And it always matters what kind of person you are. Numerology: what kind of person are you? Here is a breakdown of individual intimate numbers

It doesn’t matter what nationality you are, what country you live in... We are all people of one planet Earth. And in America, Nizhnevartovians preserve Russian culture and traditions.

At the age of 45, Vartovo resident Lyudmila radically changed her life. My husband, with whom I had lived for more than 20 years, asked for a leave of absence, for two or three years, to “take a break” from each other...

It's a difficult year in 2002. There is unemployment in the country. The decision did not come immediately and not simply. But it was accepted: “I’m moving to America.” And this, mind you, without knowledge of the English language.

Meet our guest Mila R. This is how she introduces herself now.

Without language, but with ambition

Those who dream of a high standard of living often flock to America.

At the same time, a considerable number of Russians, having lived in America, return back and tell how difficult it is for a person with a Slavic mentality to fit into the local way of life. And what about the attitude of Americans towards visiting Russians? Some people claim that Americans are very friendly, welcoming and there are no problems communicating with them. Others experience real suffering from what they see as fake American smiles or the fact that it is impossible to have a heart-to-heart talk with residents. What determines the different perceptions of American reality and why are there such different opinions? How do our compatriots in the USA really live?

Starting from scratch is always difficult, especially at my age,” Mila honestly admits. - Before this I was already in America visiting friends. But then there was no complete picture of American life. Therefore, in the first years of my stay in this country, I had many discoveries. Different - pleasant and not very pleasant. First of all, I had to learn the language. It took two years. There were no problems with the work. Contrary to popular belief, Russians are treated very well in America. Do you know why? We know how to not just work, but work hard. As a rule, many of our compatriots climb the career ladder quite quickly if they really came to work and did not chase a fairy tale about a beautiful life.

The main indicator of an American's standard of living is the annual family income. According to Russian standards, these are large sums, and we believe that all Americans are rich. Indeed, the standard of living of Americans is quite high for a country with such a large population, and they are accustomed to all the amenities and take them for granted. How can you not have a garage in your house or a parking lot next to your apartment? Is it really possible to live in a communal apartment with one kitchen and a shared bathroom?

From the first day of my arrival in America, I admired the small details surrounding their life. The entire huge American industry works for the person, for the convenience of his life, since the first condition for business is to sell, return the money spent and make a profit.

Middle class: them and us

Many Russians claim that the middle class lives in America, as they say, in “chocolate.” And we vegetate. What's the reality?

“I wouldn’t say that our lives are radically different,” says Mila. - Yes, Americans earn many times more, but they also have more expenses. First, taxes eat up most of the income. Secondly, utility bills. Every family has a car, usually two. Americans, with rare exceptions, buy them on credit. What can we say about health insurance! For many, it is simply inaccessible. Do you know how the ordinary middle class is sometimes treated? He goes to the pharmacy and consults with the pharmacist about which medicine is best to buy. That's all the treatment. If you call an ambulance, firefighters and police will come with it. And everyone will have to pay for the call. I have seen people who have their own home and cars, but no teeth because they don’t have the money for a dentist.

My conclusion is that average Americans live on credit, but they live well, albeit with headaches all the time. Why on credit? Yes, because in the USA there is a perfect, proven credit system, and if you manage your finances rationally, pay off your loan obligations on time, then by the time you retire you will have a paid-off house, of course, cars, some kind of inheritance from your parents and often small savings in the bank. So I would say that from a financial point of view we are very similar, but in relation to life we ​​are not.

Are you talking about that constant, glued-on smile that Mikhail Zadornov talks so much about?

Well, let's talk about smiling. An American trait that cannot be ignored is friendliness and ubiquitous smiles. At first, they often seem unreal to people from the post-Soviet space, and a person who is able to smile like that seems insincere, but after living for some time in the USA, people accept this habit. The new habit of smiling is accompanied by a feeling of openness to the world and a new country, new people, a feeling of safety and security. True, when I came home on vacation to my native Nizhnevartovsk, my daughter asked me not to smile at everyone I met, saying that they would consider me inappropriate.

Old age can be spent in different ways

Many, once in America, begin to travel,” our heroine continues. - Firstly, almost 100 percent of the population in the United States has a car, which means complete freedom of movement. Secondly, excellent roads. Thirdly, a mobile, dynamic lifestyle means the ability to spend a lot of time on wheels. I also really love driving. I even travel by truck. Once I drove through five states at once.

By the way, American pensioners are much more active than Russians. They often lead a lifestyle that is not much different from that of youth. Grandparents wear jeans and sneakers, ride bicycles and rollerblades, learn languages, attend a lot of different clubs, courses, sections, and run in parks. It’s very surprising at first, but this is how I would like to grow old.

What are you interested in?

I do a lot of volunteer work. Each state probably has its own Russian community. For example, in California we even celebrated Victory Day. They specially sewed tunics for this holiday. The state governor also came to this meeting. The Americans willingly wore St. George's ribbons with us.

We also have our own ensemble “Golden Domes of Russia”. We know him well. Russian songs have soul, which is why they are popular. We perform a lot, and at different venues.

There are many Russian churches in California. We are now raising one of them from scratch. Yes, it takes a lot of time. But this is our culture and traditions that the Russian people want to preserve.

Big politics and people

Americans always clearly plan their expenses and work hard, just like us Russians,” continues Mila. - Like in all countries, there are very poor people here, homeless people. For them there are social benefits, food stamps, and many charities.

But Americans do not have our Soviet worldview about the state’s responsibility for your life and well-being. They understand that the most important thing is to finish school and get a good education, so that they can achieve everything themselves.

What does American television say and show about Russians?

Almost nothing. If any party buys back time, then we are talking about big politics. Well, maybe someone will mention Russia in passing once or twice, and that’s all. Ordinary Americans, like us, are much more interested in the affairs of their own family, their state. In 14 years of living in America, I have never encountered a negative attitude towards Russians.

One woman - two countries

Of course, we couldn’t help but ask our heroine the main question: “Which country is yours?”

Russia is my own mother, America has become my sister,” says Mila. - For now I live in two countries. I forgot to say: I lived in Hawaii for two years. In recent years I have come to the conclusion: it doesn’t matter what nationality you are, what country you live in... We are all people of one planet Earth. In any country in the world you can, if you wish, preserve your culture and traditions. But we must remember the main thing: don’t go into someone else’s monastery with your own rules. There are Russian communities in all developed countries. What does this mean? Yes, sometimes we have different mentalities, different historical roots and traditions, but we can all live peacefully. I don’t want to guess what country I will live in in a year or two. Let everything take its course. Life, as practice has shown, is unpredictable. And who knows where the next twist of fate will take me...

Quotes about communication, quotes about the opinions of others.

Calm down. Breathe deeply. Life is Beautiful and amazing. Just be kind and considerate of others. Give people love.

In a self-loving world, holiness, or the life of love, causes indignation and hatred, for the world cannot stand light, just as a sick eye cannot stand the rays of the sun.

Hieromartyr Alexander Miropolsky - Love is the essence of Christianity

The people around are me, only in other incarnations. Elchin Safarli - Tell me about the sea

Every day I try to treat people the way they treat me. And every day I understand that kindness in me is stronger than pride.

Do not argue with each other on any matter, do not speak ill of anyone, do not judge anyone, do not condemn or humiliate anyone either in word or in your heart, do not complain about anyone, do not suspect anyone of any evil.

Reverend Abba Isaiah

The more I think about this, the more convinced I am that there is no higher art than the art of loving people. Vincent Van Gogh

It doesn't matter what world you live in...

It matters what kind of world lives in you...

Before you worry about someone else's opinion or because someone is disappointed in you, just ask yourself: is the meaning of your life really to live up to other people's expectations?!

There were different people in my life, some disappointed me, some, perhaps, me. But each of these people taught me something. Someone taught me not to trust, someone taught me to love, someone to hate... But most of all I thank those people who taught me to forgive.

If you wish for someone else, you will get it for yourself.

Venerable Cornelius of Krypetsky

Help the flowers bloom in the heart of your neighbor. Elchin Safarli - Tell me about the sea

Don't judge others because it often happens

that without knowing a person, they speak badly about him, but in his mind he is like angels.

Venerable Silouan of Athos

We don't know what will happen tomorrow...

Let it just be!... And let all those who are dear to us be in it!...

Don't look at what others have... take care of WHAT you have

People are generally ashamed of good things, for example, humanity, love, their tears, melancholy, everything that is not gray.

K. Paustovsky.

There are people you waste time with

and there are those with whom you lose the sense of time...

The greatest gift you can give to a person is the quality of your attention.

Virginia Satir

If a person hesitates, move away and let him come to balance. Otherwise you will have to hesitate with him. In general, you will hesitate... Both...

There are no chance meetings in the world...

We need each other for something...

one, like an angel, helps us,

we sincerely support the other...

Always try to be compassionate towards unkind people - they really need it so much, they just haven’t learned it yet.

One person has the right to look down on another only when he helps him rise.

The mood can be Sunny even in cloudy weather, if there are people nearby with whom you want to go through life!

Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need love.

Swedish proverb

When we look for the best in others, we reveal the best in ourselves.

William Arthur Ward

The right word spoken at the right time can perform a miracle.

Alexander Green

There is sun in every person. Just let it shine.

The strong one is not the one who can put you down on your shoulder blades with one look, but the one who can lift you up from your knees with one smile.

All the people sent to us are our reflection. And they were sent so that we, looking at these people, correct our mistakes, and when we correct them, these people either change too or leave our lives.

We do not meet anyone other than a piece of the big Self. Therefore, every meeting is always a meeting with an unknown self.

At the beginning of the twenty-first century, we are returning to old methods of determining personality and future events. After astrology, it’s the turn of… numberology. This is a “science” that interprets the numbers encoded by you for your first and last name, as well as those derived from your date of birth. Here we will only deal with the first and last name. The method is simple. It is enough to use the table below to decipher the personality of yourself or your friends. All characteristics apply to both women and men.

Personality Study

Numberology is based on numbers from 1 to 9, each of which is under a certain influence (zero is a symbol of emptiness and is not taken into account ). Three numbers allow you to describe and determine your character:

A) intimate number reveals those traits that you hide from others;
B) the inherited number reveals what has been passed down by the family;
IN) An expressive number reveals your nature and way of acting.
An intimate number allows you to identify hidden aspirations, interests and hidden dreams.

It is calculated using the table:
A-1 B-2 C-3 D-4 D-5 E-6 F-7 W-8 I-9 Y
K-1 L-2 M-3 N-4 O-5 P-6 R-7 S-8 T-9
U-1 F-2 X-3 Ts-4 Ch-5 Sh-6 Shch-7 Kommersant-8 Y-9
L-1 E-2 Yu-3 Ya-4

Example: ANNA
1+4+4+1 = 10 10 (1+0) = 1

Here is a breakdown of individual intimate numbers:

1 — People around you claim that you are somewhat tyrannical with others and hate hesitation. You are an impulsive and enthusiastic person. You either love or you don’t and act accordingly.

2- You surrender to the will of fate. Being a person with a strong imagination, you love beauty and art. Harmony of feelings plays an important role in your development.

3 — You are distinguished by intelligence and mobility. You take advantage of every opportunity for action. Your charm connects people. Meetings, friendships and travel play a significant role in your life.

4 — Based on a solid foundation, you devote your energy to creating wealth for your family and home. You walk your path systematically and methodically. You are an excellent worker, you are characterized by caution, caused by doubts in your own abilities, multiplied by your delicacy.

5 — You are an enthusiast who always wants to be on stage and does not like to remain in the shadows. In life, you always look for a chance and try to use it, without really worrying about tomorrow. Living so intensely, you do not tolerate the lazy and petty.

6 - You are very sensitive to others. You know how to work and observe. You are attracted to activities that bring relief to others. Selflessness and forbearance allow you to grow and achieve success.

7 — You are a person full of fire, sociable, you attract people like a real magnet. Happiness and failure matter most in your life. Hate inertia, you are attracted to travel and anything that allows you to change your lifestyle.

8 — You are gifted with the ability to be constantly active, ask a lot of questions and answer without beating around the bush. You like unknown, unexpected problems that your mind can solve.

9 — You know how to dispassionately evaluate loved ones and easily adapt to any conditions. By nature you are an idealist, but your character is influenced by the sense of distance that you keep between yourself and other people. However, you are not a lover of loneliness; on the contrary, you love to share joys.

Inherited number

It is calculated using the same table by last name (for married women, their maiden name should be taken). Add all the numbers until you get a result that fits within the range from 1 to 9.

And here is the decoding of inherited numbers:
1 “You bravely face all dangers.” Being a very active person, you do not like to push the completion of your tasks onto others. You quickly get bored with dullness, but focusing on “great goals” causes stress.

2 — You have character traits that were traditionally considered useful for a family, namely: patience, tirelessness, constancy. You are attracted to comfort. You find pleasure in the material world and in communicating with people.

3 —You are distinguished by your quick mind. Dexterity, curiosity and resourcefulness help you find your place among people. A small drawback is absent-mindedness. But you always come back to earth.

4 — You have many positive traits inherited from your ancestors. Partly thanks to them, you know how to live and know how to use this inheritance properly.

5 — Love games and surprises, the opportunity to decorate yourself and attract attention. You feel at ease among children and have a great gift for teaching.

6 -You have a strict and discerning spirit. You do not know how to lead an aimless lifestyle, you like to help others, who have a great influence on your mood and reactions.

7 — Love sophisticated art. Your character is characterized by impatience. Don't like to resist others. You suppress your feelings. Therefore, some argue that you are impulsive and capricious.

8 “You have great moral courage and a tremendous ability to deal with life’s difficulties. You understand the meaning of secrets and dramas. Attracted and repelled by the material world, you always surprise those around you.

9 — Love large spaces. You are an altruist, an idealist, you feel the need to give something to your loved ones, or knowledge, or something material.

Expressive number

It determines how you deal with the problems in your life. This is the sum of the intimate number of the first name and the inherited number of the surname, reduced to a result from 1 to 9.

Decoding expressive numbers:
1 — Your will, ambition and self-confidence determine your authority. Your plans are sentimental, you are capable of generosity and passion, but at all times you remain the head of the family. At work, you are distinguished by your desire to lead. Performing subordinate functions is a punishment for you.

2 — You are a diplomatic and emotional person. Your character is primarily submissive, maternal and sensitive. There is a void in your heart that you willingly fill with love. In your work, you like to collaborate with others and give advice.

3 — You are a great optimist and at the same time feel the need to be noticed by others. You always admire witty people. In the professional field, you need intense activity. Thus, success comes - or not?

4 - Reasonable and unstable, with a stable character. Your feelings are deep, and loyalty is not an empty word for you. Job? Do you like her. Your method and efforts will gradually but surely lead you to success.

5 — Full of energy, always on the move, you need to travel. For you, freedom is a value that cannot be replaced. You put love adventures above great love as more exciting. The routine “kills” you at work, but you easily adapt to a new profession.

6 — Your personality can be briefly described - you are looking for harmony. You are sensitive to beauty and art, and your overall balance depends on the balance of your senses. Home, family, love - these are the values ​​that you value above all else. At work you take on many responsibilities. Often those that others must perform.

7 - Everything plays out inside you. Reflections and memories help you search for the truth. Unions and separations arise unexpectedly. You team up only with partners who respect your independence. You are the original.

8 - Power? Money? Words that you know very well. Energetic and ambitious, you love to pit yourself against others, to pit yourself against others. Work does not make you afraid, it allows you to realize yourself, make decisions, it is the key to your material achievements. In love, you know what you want, but you only show feelings when you are together. It is difficult to find a partner in America.

9 -You are warlike and passionate. Are you selfish? No, on the contrary: an idealist, devoted, you know how to appreciate others, and this is your dignity. You are gentle and faithful, but are not afraid to break up and start over. For you, the boundary between love and friendship is not always clearly defined.